Intimacy and the Shared Self

I receive daily e-mail meditations of Richard Rohr’s from the Center for Action and Contemplation. This morning’s was adapted form Rohr’s Immortal Diamond, a book I’ve written about before (here, here and here).

I love the way Rohr talks about intimacy in today’s passage. He writes

As I studied accounts of the Resurrection, I came to see what is now completely obvious to me: these texts reveal both the Christ and the True Self as a deep capacity for intimacy with oneself and with everything, probably including life itself. Starting with Christ’s “white as snow” robe and his “face like lightning” (Matthew 28:3), we have initial statements of perfect transparency, accessibility, and radiant visibility. The True Self is a shared and sharable self, or it is not the True Self.

In John’s account, Mary Magdalene knows Jesus not by sight but when he pronounces her first name (John 20:16). She completes the exchange by calling him “Master” in return. Jesus’ puzzling “Do not cling to me” (John 20:17) statement is what makes true intimacy possible. Intimacy is possible only between two calm identities and it is not the same as melding or fusing into one. As we say in non-dual teaching, “Not two, but not one either.”

Intimacy occurs when we reveal ourselves fully, reveal what is secret – to ourselves, to others, to God. Intimacy is risky. It is scary. But it is also exciting and true. And when we experience it, we know that we are where we ought to be.