It is tempting to say “God comes first for me, and then [fill in the blank - my family , my spouse, etc.].” But to say God comes first, implies that second and third are somehow separate from God. God at the top of the pyramid suggests lower levels of the pyramid that are occupied by something other than God.
There is an image in the novel The Shack that I found particularly beautiful in this regard – the image of Jesus at the center of the mobile of our lives. In the book, Jesus says,
Mack, I don’t want to be first among a list of values: I want to be at the center of everything. When I live in you, then together we can live through everything that happens to you. Rather than a pyramid, I want to be the center of a mobile, where everything in your life – your friends, family, occupation, thoughts, activities – is conected to me but moves with the wind [the power of the Holy Spirit], in and our and back and forth, in an incredible dance of being.
It is a wonderful image. Jesus, not as first among many. But as the center of our being. God getting not just a piece of our life (even if it is the first, best and biggest part), but “all of [us] and all of every part of [us] and [our] day.”